Ex-Royal Opera House graphic designer, 38, tells how he battered his girlfriend, 35, to death after they rowed over him dressing up in women’s underwear, stockings and make-up to have sex with herRoderick Deakin-White has confessed to killing Australian fiancee, Amy ParsonsDeakin-White today told jurors that he used cross dressing as an ‘escapism’Said Ms Parsons gave him an ultimatum to stop after returning from AustraliaDeakin-White admits manslaughter but denies murder, the trial is continuing
By Rory Tingle For Mailonline
Published: 09:51 EST, 7 November 2019 | Updated: 10:26 EST, 7 November 2019
A former graphic designer at the Royal Opera House today told a court how he battered his girlfriend to death after she told him to stop dressing in women’s underwear, stockings and make-up to have sex with her.
Roderick Deakin-White, 38, has confessed to killing his Australian fiancee, Amy Parsons, 35, by repeatedly hitting her with a metal ‘chin up’ bar as she showered at their apartment in Whitechapel, east London.
Deakin-White today told jurors that he used cross dressing as an ‘escapism’, and would regularly wear women’s underwear, stockings and make-up while at home.
Roderick Deakin-White, 38, has confessed to killing his Australian fiancee, Amy Parsons, 35, by repeatedly hitting her with a metal ‘chin up’ bar
He told jurors at Snaresbrook Crown Court that Ms Parsons would sometimes buy underwear for him and ’embrace it’ while at other times it would ‘really upset her.’
But he said that in January this year she gave him an ultimatum to stop cross-dressing after she returned from a Christmas visit to family and friends in Australia.
Deakin-White told the court they had both been happy in their eight-year relationship, but tensions began at the start of this year when Ms Parsons came back to the UK.
He said tensions surrounded his unemployment and his cross-dressing which was ‘always the elephant in the room.’
Deakin-White said he fully ‘stopped doing it’ when Ms Parsons gave him the ultimatum in January, and that the couple were planning to move to Australia where he hoped to ‘start afresh’ with a possible new career.
Taking the witness stand wearing a navy blue suit, a white shirt and tan shoes, he said: ‘Before she left [for Australia], we were normal – we were fine.
‘She came back and she said lots of stuff. One of the things was she had not missed me, but she did give me an ultimatum after that.
‘She wanted me to stop cross-dressing and she said she was ready for us to move back to Australia.’
He added: ‘From January up until April, the relationship had changed a little bit in terms of she had asked me to stop cross-dressing which I sort of did agree to.’
But he told the court that when his mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer, he began cross-dressing more often and felt he was ‘pushing Amy away with that.’
Deakin-White today told jurors that he used cross dressing as an ‘escapism’, and would regularly wear women’s underwear, stockings and make-up while at home
He said: ‘It is something that I wanted to be open with her about so very very early on in the relationship.
‘I had mentioned it, put it on the table. It was there, but it was always the elephant in the room.
‘It was something Amy could not get her head around. It is something I have done for so long, I just do it.’
He added: ‘It was always a private thing for me to do behind closed doors.
‘I am ashamed of it, I have always been ashamed of it. I have never understood it.
‘It is usually just underwear. It is comfort and escapism. It is not something I did all the time, but I did do it when we had sex.’
He later added: ‘It was not like I would force it on Amy.
‘We would speak about it before we did. Sometimes she would embrace it, other times it would really upset her.’
Richard Carey-Hughes QC asked Deakin-White if he stopped when it upset Ms Parsons.
He said: ‘Yes. I did not want to make her feel awkward. Sometimes she would buy things for me.
‘If she wants me to stop, I will stop but other times she was okay with it.’
The court heard Deakin-White had previously made a closed Facebook profile in the name of a woman, dressed as a woman.
He said: ‘That was before I met Amy. It was fully closed soon after opening it.’
The court also heard of tensions between the couple regarding Deakin-White’s long-term unemployment
The court also heard of tensions between the couple regarding Deakin-White’s long-term unemployment.
He said: ‘Amy was the bread winner. I was kind of house husband. I did the cleaning and the laundry, general maintenance of things in the flat, shopping.
‘Amy was very fortunate with her job – she got a hell of a wage. We were comfortable.
‘Tensions did rise, but it was much later at the start of the year. I thought we had a system, but it did become an issue from January onwards.’
The court also heard how Deakin-White felt ‘suicidal’ and ‘heartbroken’ at the thought of losing Ms Parsons because he thought she was having an affair.
Deakin-White they had fallen out when she became emotional after giving him permission to wear women’s clothes during sex in the weeks before her death.
He said Ms Parsons took a taxi to the home of her colleague James Saunders at around 5am.
Deakin-White told the court that he initially thought Mr Saunders was ‘a shoulder to cry on’ for Ms Parsons and she had told him not to worry.
He said: ‘We were going to have sex. I asked about the cross-dressing. I was asking Amy’s permission before I did it. That was all okay.
‘When she came in the room, she became quite emotional and a bit awkward. She okayed it, and then I felt humiliated.’
Deakin-White said the couple had an arrangement where he would sleep on the sofa and Ms Parsons would sleep in the bed.
But after their disagreement, Ms Parsons left the apartment and went to Mr Saunders’ address.
Deakin-White described Ms Parsons as ‘my person’ and said he could not ‘get his head around’ her and Mr Saunders, who he initially saw as her ‘shoulder to cry on.’
He told the court: ‘She said “I am going to James”. My response was “James? As in James from work?” She replied “yep, but don’t worry he is fatter than you” as in me.
‘I slumped by the front door. I did not really want her to leave. I said “you cannot go in the state you are in, he is going to take advantage of you” and I was shocked with it.’
He added: ‘I was worried that she was vulnerable in the state she was in. At that point I had fallen out with her.
‘I thought that maybe in my head it was a shoulder to cry on.’
Deakin-White was told by friends of Ms Parsons’ plans to meet with Mr Saunders for lunch and learned the pair had kissed.
He said Ms Parsons denied having slept with Mr Saunders but that the information was conflicting.
He said he sent a message to Mr Saunders to tell him to ‘back off’ and stalked him and Ms Parsons ‘to see what they were like together’ Snaresbrook Crown Court heard.
He said he wanted to know whether they were intimate together and if they ‘had a better connection that we had.’
When asked about his WhatsApp message to Mr Saunders, he said: ‘I did send that.
‘I did not really know what I was doing. I thought “this is the thing the guy does”.
‘She had already said to me I have to fight for her, so in my head I thought that was fighting for her.
‘Amy was my person and then there was all this stuff with James, and I could not get my head around it.’
Deakin-White told the court he went to his parents’ house to give Ms Parsons some space.
He contacted a friend to say he was ‘broken’ and that he did not know what to do. He said he had ‘never felt so scared and alone.’
Deakin-White claimed he drove to a forest with the intention of killing himself at the thought of losing Ms Parsons.
He told the jury he was ‘lovestruck’ when he first met Ms Parsons at a relative’s house in Dunstable, Bedfordshire.
His mother had invited Ms Parsons for a cheese night while she was travelling across Europe and the US.
The court heard that Deakin-White had only been in one consensual sexual relationship before Ms Parsons, with another Australian woman who was doing a work placement and who he met at university.
He said: ‘Amy was invited to that by my mum and I happened to be at home. I opened the door and she was there. I feel like I was lovestruck. I was blown away.’
He added: ‘The feeling was amicable – we were both the same.’
Ms Parsons was pronounced dead at the apartment and a post-mortem examination revealed she had been struck several times
The pair stayed in contact via Skype as Ms Parsons continued her travels to Italy, New York and Washington.
Deakin-White flew out to New York to spend time with Ms Parsons, and later to Australia before the couple moved to the UK together.
Deakin-White said: ‘To have Amy move across the other side of the world to be with me was amazing. We were good together. We were inseparable.’
The couple looked for places in London and rented from 2012 onwards when Ms Parsons quickly found work, but Deakin-White remained unemployed.
When asked about his relationship with Ms Parsons a year before her death, he said the pair were both happy.
He said: ‘We were good together. We were inseparable, we spent all our time together.’
In Christmas 2018, Ms Parsons flew to visit her family in Australia without Deakin-White who stayed at home.
But their relationship took a ‘downturn’ after she returned, the court heard.
Deakin-White said they planned to move to Australia together and raise a family, and that they had been applying for his visa in January.
But he said Ms Parsons had raised her concerns as to whether he would be able to find employment there.
He told the court he had felt ‘trapped’ living in London, but that he had hoped to ‘start afresh’ in Australia.
He hoped to possibly change career to become a gas engineer or a builder, and said Ms Parsons had several friends in that trade in Australia.
Deakin-White said: ‘We wanted to start a family. I really wanted us to get back to Australia. We wanted to get married.
‘We were engaged, I was waiting for us to be in Australia before we did that.’
The court heard Deakin-White has been suffering with depression for 20 years.
He initially dropped out of university after his first year of study, where he ‘was struggling with friendships’ and felt like he ‘was the outsider’ and was ‘too shy.’
He then lived with his parents and did factory work for companies such as WHSmith and Amazon which he described to the court as ‘awful, awful jobs.’
The court heard of a childhood trauma when Deakin-White was made to dress up in women’s clothes and perform a sex act on a man on multiple occasions.
He recalled cross dressing from the age of around 10 when he would put on a slip in primary school.
He said: ‘I remember doing it as early as primary school, 10-ish. I have a distinct memory of putting on a slip.’
Deakin-White admits manslaughter but denies murder.
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